How not taking the promotion you deserve can end up being the best blessing ever!
My point of view is not about losing a promotion to another person. I talk about this sense of progress that you continuously need and pursue because you love what you are doing and you are just willing to do even more… so you ask for it!
A few months back, I sat down with my Manager to have an evaluation and see how I can progress more from thereon. At least that is what I thought the discussion would be about 🙂 It didn’t exactly turn out the way it was playing out in my head.
To be really transparent with you, I went full-on on this meeting about my excitement to progress more and do more as I had already done everything possible in the role I was already in! I was so confident about it and so happy that an opportunity to do more and learn new things had appeared.
Well…I guess you can tell by now that the response I had didn’t exactly match my excitement or willingness to progress. Now, I can really laugh about it and appreciate what this ended up doing for me. But back then, the response I got was indifferent the least, I felt and I knew in my gut that it was totally unfair, unjust and obviously the whole thing had nothing to do with my progress whatsoever. I remember expressing that openly to my Manager, as I couldn’t feel true to myself if I left this meeting without making it clear that this wasn’t fair at all…
I was in a negative space, totally pissed off for many days, feeling that this is unfair, feeling so disappointed as I was in a field I love so much and had so much to give. It was only a few weeks later that I had an enlightening moment. What if I didn’t have to chase any of that, what if what they thought I deserve wasn’t important at all? Why should I wait for somebody else to ‘ approve’ my promotion or my job role?
These thoughts were definitely a game-changer for me!! I never believed in the ‘climbing the ladder’ point of view, I actually totally dislike it. I don’t even like when people say that ”this is the way things work, right?” I am like ”heck no!” I believe in progress and if somebody can do it faster why should they wait to climb the ladder slowly step by step?? All these thoughts and the idea that there must be more creative ways to earn an income, rather than following the traditional way that we are all taught, made me restless.
I was determined that I would find the way no matter what. I was actually obsessed to find something I can do online as I wanted to be close to my family as often as I want, be financially free, and feel more passionate and creative than ever about what I am doing ( as I was obviously experiencing burn-out at my job).
So I started this quest of finding what I was looking for! A few months later, after research and many things that seemed interesting but weren’t, I found the most amazing community that made me realize what I was looking for already exists out there, and they were already doing that!!! I can’t describe in words the feeling of belonging I felt as soon as I encountered these like-minded people!!!! It was as if we were finally communicating in the same ‘language’ 🙂
I had finally found people that are interested in their progress, they are working full or part-time online and are happier than ever. As it turns out, there are many ways to create an income around what you love online, I just had no idea how to do that back then.
Can you imagine doing what you love and getting paid for it?
I hope that this will be a wake-up call for you too, and I do hope that it will make you see some things that happened in your life through a different lens.
What if some things happen for you? What if some things that seem like a lost opportunity are actually a blessing in disguise, and now you can actually find meaning in them and pursue the dreams your heart really yearns for!!